As Indians we spank our kids. Its a cultural thing. In fact when I was growing up to my full 5 feet 4 inch splendor , I was brought up by the idiom that it takes a whole village to bring up a child.
I was spanked by everyone.
Once when I got down from the school bus and ran across the road without checking for the oncoming lorry, which had to swerve and brake to avoid a tiny road kill, I was propelled forward by the spanking I got from every one who happened to stand by. I didn’t stop running until I reached home to rest my beaten up arse.
We were spanked. We throw a fuss for eating. Spank. We now eat whatever is served in front of us. No questions asked. We fail our exams. Big time spanking. We learn that everything has a consequence and we learn that by the seat of our bottom or by the palms of our hands.
Do you know that 90+ % of the worlds population has been spanked at least once in their childhood? Of course some of us continued to be spanked and some of us even pay for it. Thats a different matter altogether. But 90% got their bottoms tanned when they did something wrong.
I am all for spanking. There was a time I wasn’t but that was when I did not have children.
It’s easy to spout theories and philosophies about things that are not in the scope of our life. That’s why I have a problem with the morons who draw moral judgements on people in whose shoes they cannot even begin to walk.
A timely spank is a great motivator. I am yet to see a child who can be made to understand reason. Hell, most adults can’t, let alone a two foot ankle biter who is now lying on the floor of the supermarket toy section doing the spin on his back imitating a dog in distress.
A perfect case study for spanking. Trying to reason with something that resembles a little human making a perfect ass out of himself is like convincing Paris Hilton the virtues of panties. Pick the fellow up, two spanks on the seat of his pants and move quickly to the exit and into the car with the stunned kid before he has the time to say; WTF?!
Fluid movements. No emotions. Speed. Parenting at its best.
I heard that in some countries the above would probably have my kids taken away from me, me placed behind bars where I will serve out a sentence being someone's bitch.
Apparently spanking will lead to aggressive behaviour in children where they learn that the solution to anything requires violence.
Am I missing something here? The last I heard thats exactly how things really are.
I am not into hitting kids. Spanking is a statement. There are no emotions in spanking. It is discipline being enforced. A spank on the bottom is not violent. It gets the message through. And the child knows that it means he or she has crossed the line. So I guess its a symbolic thing. Like eating Jesus's body and drinking his blood.
Hitting a kid is mean. If I was that kid, I would grow up and then hit you back. Hitting a child is as good as bullying. It means that as parents we suck. Call me judgmental but thats how I see it.
So the line is not a thin line. Its a god fucking interstate highway dividing the two.
I have done both. So I know.
Once when my Object in Perpetual Motion was about 4 years old, I pushed him out of my way because he was making a mess in the living room with his toys. He fell. Not hard. Just plonked down on his butt. I saw this look of confusion in his eyes before he started crying. As if he was trying to comprehend my action. Like I betrayed him. I was too much of a coward to make peace then. Instead I brooded. Tried to justify it with myself. Forgive myself. Ignore it. Not a big deal.
When I returned to the living room, he was asleep on the sofa. I picked him up and took him to the bedroom. After tucking him in, I sat by his side for a long time, because his hands were clutched around my index finger.
Kids. They can do funny things to your heart.
I still spank him though. Not often. But I do.
Thing is being a parent is not something that you need a degree on. You go with your instinct because there is never a right or a wrong way. Eventually they grow up the way they want to. They will take some, reject some. They will absorb some, ignore some. They will make choices in spite of or despite you. They will be influenced. They will also learn in their own way.
Much like we all did. But its your watch and you do count. So make it count.
Love them. But for heaven sake spank them when they behave like morons and are disrespectful or harmful to others.
But please remember, no kids have ever died of starvation by not wanting to eat a meal.
But it still gets your goat, doesn’t it?
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