Indian Parents. They may be overbearing, aggravating and meddling, but there really is no denying that they have always dreamt the best for us. They have aspired for us to be happy, healthy, successful and renowned. They have desired for us to have a good career, a large house, a big and safe car, and prodigious amounts of savings. They have prayed that we choose a worthy spouse, one who espouses their values and beliefs. Of good looking, able-bodied stock, who would help the family line advance with angelic children.
It is purely with the intention to help us achieve all of the above that our parents have been overbearing, aggravating and meddling. They have pushed and pulled us, carrot-and-sticked us, laughed and cried with us. They have deployed the best strategies to make us the stars of their dreams. The question is – have we kept our side of the bargain?
Sure we have, we would say. We would say that we worked hard, studied at the best universities, got ourselves a good job or a successful business, settled down with the best person who agreed to marry us, bought a house, had children, got a car etc. In short, built for ourselves a normal, decent life, just like our parents did when they were our age. The fact is, though, that our parents aspired for us to be better than them, not just like them.
The reality is – we settled for less. Instead of being Phenomenal, we decided to be Unremarkable. We could have had everything, but we chose to work hard instead of smart. We deliberately, and foolishly, chose the path that took us away from Unbounded Success.
Unbounded Success is what we read about in the papers every day. It’s what we watch in the news on TV. It is what ‘they’ have. And we don’t.
Unbounded Success means the ability to make millions, nay billions, within 5 years. It means getting conferred honorary degrees from the best universities of the world, even if one barely attended class in school and college. What is true accomplishment if it isn’t living in the most exclusive and well protected neighbourhood in the city, while also gobbling prime property all over the world? Real achievement means not just owning a couple of bank and investment accounts in India, but dozens of offshore accounts in exotic locations. It means having your own helicopter for small hops, and a chartered Boeing 747 for longer leaps. Why have ‘a’ car when you can have a fleet decked with flashing lights – and why stop in traffic when you can have the traffic stop for you? And, when you achieve it, Unbounded Success is not just limited to you – it amply spills over to your spouse, your children, your friends, their friends, your extended family, and their friends and extended family. One signature from you can make someone’s world come crashing down, or turn another man’s pot of dust to gold. When you have Unbounded Success, everyone talks about you constantly. If they say good things, it is deserved, if not, they are just being resentful.
Unbounded Success is defined as never needing to be accountable. It is being in that zone where whatever you say is the truth, and the rest is all lies. It is being the master of the universe.
It is the kind of success that even God only dreams of. It is the kind that makes one feel they are bigger than Him.
We could have had all of that. And yet, we decided to not join Politics.
We have failed our parents.
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